"We've had this exact conversation
50 times."
The issue was only resolved for one of you. The other just got tired of fighting.
Sound familiar?
"I have to ask him to do everything. I'm exhausted from being the manager."
The mental load is invisible until you're drowning in it. You didn't sign up to be a project manager in your own home.
"He just shuts down and won't talk. Then nothing gets resolved."
One person pushes for answers, the other withdraws. The cycle repeats until you both give up.
"We 'resolved' this last month. Why is it back?"
It was only resolved in one person's mind. Unmet needs don't disappear—they resurface as the same fight, different day.
"I feel like his mother, not his partner."
You're not asking for perfection. You're asking for ownership. There's a difference between helping and waiting to be told what to do.
The dishes aren't the real problem.
Recurring arguments aren't about the topic on the surface—they're about what that topic represents. Respect. Fairness. Being heard.
You keep having the same fight because the underlying issue was never actually addressed. Both of you walked away with different ideas of what was agreed.
What actually works
1. Write it down
An AI mediator helps you both say what you actually mean. No interrupting, no defensiveness, no "that's not what I said."
2. Agree on principles
Create shared rules you both actually believe in. Not one person's rules that the other "agreed" to while exhausted.
3. Reference it later
When conflict comes up, you have something to point to. No more "I never agreed to that" or "you're remembering it wrong."
What changes
Arguments actually end — not just get tabled until next time
Stop being the manager — written agreements mean you're not the one tracking everything
No more shutting down — async text chat means no one gets flooded or stonewalled
Neutral third party — the AI doesn't take sides or remember who "won" last time
Your principles, not generic advice — based on what you both actually value
From couples who tried it
"The chores fight wasn't about chores. It took the AI asking the right questions for us to realize I felt disrespected and he felt criticized. Now we have actual principles we agreed on."
— Together 4 years, married 2
"My husband shuts down in arguments. With this, he could take his time responding. No one was standing over him demanding answers. We finally talked about money without a blowup."
— Together 7 years
Questions
Is this couples therapy?
No. It's a tool for building agreements and resolving disputes—not processing trauma or working through deep relationship issues. Works great alongside therapy, or on its own for the everyday stuff that keeps coming up.
My partner won't try anything. How do I get them to use this?
Send them the invite link and start with something small—not the big explosive issue. The AI is neutral and non-judgmental. Most skeptical partners relax once they see it's not about blame or winning.
Is our conversation private?
Yes. Your agreements and conversations are encrypted. We don't sell data or use your conversations for AI training.
How is this different from just... talking?
Talking doesn't create documentation. The first few seconds of an argument usually determine how it ends—someone criticizes, the other gets defensive, and you're off to the races. This removes the heat and creates something you can both reference later.
How much does it cost?
Free to start. Create agreements and resolve disputes at no cost. Premium features available for power users.
Stop having the same fight.
5 minutes to set up. Free to start.